Jealousy is one of the biggest trials a relationship can go through.
Couples often argue because of this.
Events of jealousy are normal and inevitable.
There are times that you just can't help but raise your eyebrow when you hear another person's name from your partner's mouth.
If encountered once in a while, then jealousy is just no biggie, but if the arguments happen again and again because of that same reason, you have to do something about it.
If you're the one who's always jealous, remember these Daft Punk lyrics, "check yourself before you wreck yourself.
" Just like any problem, there's a proper procedure to get over jealousy.
All you need is a new perspective.
Open your mind to all the factors that affect the whole act of being jealous.
Jealousy is often caused by insecurities.
Insecurities occur whenever you think you are not enough for something or someone.
You become insecure when you see somebody have something that you want but can't have.
You are frustrated about not getting what you want.
When you do, you compare yourself to the person.
You think that they are more deserving than you, and you can't stand that thought.
When you see that your partner is appreciating somebody else, you begin to think that you are not enough.
You question your capabilities, your looks and your personality.
You don't want your partner to look for another person who can please them.
Now this is leading to selfishness.
You become excessively possessive, which may smother your partner commitment-wise.
Jealousy can really bring out the worst in a person, but you can always think of ways on how to avoid feeling this way.
Here are some guidelines that you can apply whenever you think you're about to be jealous of someone again: · Throw away all your insecurities.
No insecurity can vanish overnight, so you can do this little by little until you become more confident.
Think of your strengths rather than the things you are frustrated about.
· Be optimistic.
Do not let any other person say you don't deserve something.
Prove them all wrong by being at your best always.
Look to the brighter side at all times.
· Be generous.
You're partner is not your personal belonging.
A relationship is a give-and-take situation.
Give way, and be happy that your partner is sharing opinions and opening up to you.
· Pinch yourself whenever you think you're jealousy is at it again.
There will still be times that you won't be able to help it.
Just be aware whenever it is about to happen, so you can quickly think of a way to overcome it.
· Trust your partner.
A relationship without trust will never be listed in the survivor's list.
· Talk to your partner.
If he or she sometimes is unconscious of your feelings, let your sentiments be known.
Hidden grudges are not healthy in a relationship.
· Learn how to appreciate others too.
It is not always about you.
Consider what other people can do, and don't just think of your own traits too much.
You don't want to end up being narcissistic.
With all these ways, you and your partner can build a stronger and healthier relationship.
Together, you can overcome any trials that will come your way.