You know the story...
A woman meets a man and they are instantly attracted to each other.
The man asks her out on a date and they have the most amazing time together, so they go on a few more dates and it keeps getting better and better.
So much so that the man asks the woman to be his girlfriend and she feels like the luckiest girl in the world! Their relationship is going great! They can barely keep their hands off each other! They spend lots of time together and the passion between the two of them burns hotter than the sun! Over time, they become more and more comfortable with each other.
The once boiling, pot of emotions and feelings such as lust, intimacy, excitement and energy between the two of them has simmered down, as they each become absorbed in their own lives focusing more on their work and they begin to spend less quality time together.
The passion begins to fade...
They still love each other but the chemistry between them has all but disappeared.
It is now a relationship of convenience.
The man begins to spend more time submersed in his work and hanging out with his mates and less and less time with his partner.
When they do spend time together it is in front of the tv.
With the lack of passion and excitement in the relationship, they start to become annoyed with each other's various flaws.
They begin to argue about small trivial things.
The more they argue, the more the passion fades between them.
The arguments begin to get nastier and the remarks made while fighting become more and more harmful.
This relationship is now reaching breaking point.
Sound familiar? Is this kind of scenario more or less what you or someone you know is going through? If it is, then you need to pay attention.
It's not all doom and gloom for your relationship, but you are going to have to consider the importance of passion and the role it plays in keeping your relationship alive.
Don't just take the previous statement I made at face-value...
I'm serious...
It is normal for couples to get used to each other as time goes by.
It's pretty obvious that the more time you spend with someone, the more you get to know that person and, the less intriguing they become because you know and understand them better than when you first met.
The key to a successful relationship is to keep the passion between the two of you burning, while you become accustomed to each other.
The beginning stages of a relationship are the most exciting times because everything is new and undiscovered but, the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more rewarding it becomes in a variety of areas.
If however, the passion between a couple begins to fade, they are more than likely going to start focusing on the things within the relationship that bother them.
This can lead to unnecessary arguing which in itself, can cause a relationship to become septic.
So why passion? Well without passion there really is no point to a relationship is there? Ladies it's simple.
Men NEED sex to feel good about themselves.
If we can satisfy our partner between the sheets, it gives us a sense of value.
It makes us feel like alpha males! It may sound pretty stupid, but that is the truth.
Lack of sex can cause a man's mind to wander.
Women too, but men are far more likely to look for passion elsewhere if they are not getting it at home.
Take away sex and what are we really there for, other than killing spiders and opening bottles that are sealed too tightly? Protection? Obligation? Conversation? We can talk to our friends.
The truth of the matter, ladies, is that sex is VERY important to men...
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and it's not our fault.
We are wired to think like that.
Men are simple creatures.
Show a man, that he turns you on, that you want him physically and that he satisfies you, and I'll show you a man that will put up with all your minor downfalls and insecurities.
It's that simple.
Make him feel good about himself and he'll do anything to protect you and keep you happy.
The way that you speak to each other is also very important! Passion can be just as much a verbal thing as it is physical.
As a general guideline, a minimum of 7 out of 10 things said between couples should be positive in nature.
If both individuals talk to each other with love and respect, then both individuals will feel that they are in a valid relationship.
Do you want your partner to pay more attention to you and your relationship? Then you need to keep the passion alive! Men will do just about anything for you, if you make them feel like they are the kings of their respective castles.
Guys, this doesn't mean it's your right to demand sex whenever you want.
You need to earn your place between the sheets by being your partners pillar of strength.
Her protector.
Her provider.
In other words, DO YOUR PART.
You need to listen to her and make her feel special too.
Women enjoy even the smallest of gestures.
Flowers.
A little note under her pillow telling her that she is an important part of your life.
It doesn't always have to cost hundreds of dollars.
We all know that women love diamonds, but anyone can buy a diamond necklace.
Doing something small and thoughtful like writing a little note or sending her flowers let's her know that you think about her when she is not around.
She wants to feel safe and secure in order to feel sexy.
If you make her feel sexy and attractive, she will want to be sexy for you.
Don't become so comfortable with one another that you stop doing the things you would have done for one another at the beginning of your relationship.
The little things you did for one another to make each other feel special and attractive.
The point I'm trying to get across is that if there is enough passion in your relationship, then the little things that annoy you about each other will remain just that.
Little things.
Insignificant.
Let the passion fade, and the tiniest of problems will seem like mountains to the two of you.
Passion is an excellent problem solver.
Don't underestimate it.
It's great at mending relationships.
Many relationships and marriages would have lasted far longer if the couples involved had tried a little harder to keep the passion flame burning.
So...
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if you can relate to this and you feel that your relationship is at a very critical stage, then try to reignite the passion between you and your partner.
You will be surprised at how the problems begin resolve themselves when the two of you begin to remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.
Guys...
make her feel sexy.
Spoil her a little.
Take her for a picnic or take a bath together by candlelight.
Compliment her and mean what you say! Don't just expect her to jump your bones.
Make her want to.
Ladies...
make him feel like he's your king.
Buy a sexy outfit and surprise him when he gets home from work.
Run him a bath if you know he's had a long day.
Massage his shoulders.
Make him feel attractive and powerful and he'll be putty in your hands.
A relationship without passion is just a friendship.
If you want to save yourrelationship, then start thinking of ways to bring the passion back in to each other's lives.
Get creative.
Passion can help you mend your relationship.