How Do I Get My Ex Back? - Critical Steps You Need to Consider
So how DO you get your Ex back? Well, let me ask you this first..
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Why did you break up in the first place?!?! This is something you have to answer first before anything else.
Why did you break up? You think its such a silly question to ask? Heck no! I know a lot of couples that break up but really don't have a clue why they did! Its really important to know the reason why you broke up.
It could be due to silly petty little stuff - which makes it really easy for you to get back together - OR, it could be due to little things that have piled up to the point where someone had to give.
This is the very first thing you need to know and understand fully before even attempting to start any conversation, be it through the phone or even through SMS.
Now it could very well be that you really have no idea what happened.
Don't worry.
This is ok.
You can use this to your advantage to strike up a conversation between you and your partner, AS LONG AS you start it off with an open mind - do not argue about the breakup! This will just shut your partner out even more! So now what? How do I get my Ex back??? Ok, ok...
now you make contact.
How? Well...
here's where the strategy come in.
I have found from a lot of the couples I've helped a very effective way for you to get your ex to communicate with you without having to beg...
Don't call.
Yes you read it right...
Don't call your ex! No verbal discussions - yet.
What we would like to happen is for your ex to call you.
What I've found to be the most effective is to leave small, simple messages either via SMS, email, or even via letters.
Drop him or her simple text messages like: "I now understand what happened, and I'm willing to talk about if you are too...
" or something like "I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you did for me.
Call me because I want to thank you in person".
The call may not happen at once, so keep on dropping those little messages.
But space it out once every 2 days, maximum of 3 in a week.
The call will come.
Now there are a lot of simple and effective sentences that you could jot down.
The important thing is for the message to make your ex feel comfortable, relaxed, and curious enough to make that call.
Very important to note: You should have a strategy at hand WHEN the call is made to you! You wouldn't want to be on the phone with your ex and not know what to say?!?! This will ruin what you've already successfully began.
Be sure to be prepared.
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Why did you break up in the first place?!?! This is something you have to answer first before anything else.
Why did you break up? You think its such a silly question to ask? Heck no! I know a lot of couples that break up but really don't have a clue why they did! Its really important to know the reason why you broke up.
It could be due to silly petty little stuff - which makes it really easy for you to get back together - OR, it could be due to little things that have piled up to the point where someone had to give.
This is the very first thing you need to know and understand fully before even attempting to start any conversation, be it through the phone or even through SMS.
Now it could very well be that you really have no idea what happened.
Don't worry.
This is ok.
You can use this to your advantage to strike up a conversation between you and your partner, AS LONG AS you start it off with an open mind - do not argue about the breakup! This will just shut your partner out even more! So now what? How do I get my Ex back??? Ok, ok...
now you make contact.
How? Well...
here's where the strategy come in.
I have found from a lot of the couples I've helped a very effective way for you to get your ex to communicate with you without having to beg...
Don't call.
Yes you read it right...
Don't call your ex! No verbal discussions - yet.
What we would like to happen is for your ex to call you.
What I've found to be the most effective is to leave small, simple messages either via SMS, email, or even via letters.
Drop him or her simple text messages like: "I now understand what happened, and I'm willing to talk about if you are too...
" or something like "I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you did for me.
Call me because I want to thank you in person".
The call may not happen at once, so keep on dropping those little messages.
But space it out once every 2 days, maximum of 3 in a week.
The call will come.
Now there are a lot of simple and effective sentences that you could jot down.
The important thing is for the message to make your ex feel comfortable, relaxed, and curious enough to make that call.
Very important to note: You should have a strategy at hand WHEN the call is made to you! You wouldn't want to be on the phone with your ex and not know what to say?!?! This will ruin what you've already successfully began.
Be sure to be prepared.
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