If you want to get back together with a man you still have feelings for then don't worry, you aren't alone.
In fact thousands of women all over the world are thrown into situations such as your own each day.
The mistake many of them make is they try to move too quickly back towards the man they care about.
While a quick resolution and a happy ending sound great on paper, this rarely works out as well in the real world.
The scary reality is that without a proven step by step plan, it is very easy to fall into a trap that may even hurt your chances forever.
Although they don't' often show it, men too are very emotional creatures.
Regardless of whether he initiated it or not, a breakup is hard on a guy too.
Men usually resort to anger when they can't understand or explain something which does not work in our favor.
In fact, while a man is in this angry phase I would strongly advise that you don't make any contact as doing so will only hurt your chances in the long run.
Instead, concentrate on getting yourself back together and start hanging out with mutual friends, doing fun "friend" activities only.
After your man breaks out of this "angry phase", he will act one of two ways.
First, he may approach you, express regret and then express interest in you.
Alternatively he may slowly start to drift away, keeping his distance.
Though these scenarios are quite different, they should be treated, at least initially, in the same way.
You should never chase him, instead setting him up so that he is the one chasing after you.
If your man is expressing feelings for you then this is great, however, don't be so quick to take him back.
The reality is that if he has genuine feelings again then he still will have them a few weeks down the road.
By accepting him back right away you are telling him that you really needed him back too.
While this may make for a cute ending in a novel, in the real world making him work a little for you is much preferable.
If your man is not expressing interest and may actually be drifting apart then, once again, the most important thing to remember is to be patient and not pursue him.
If he still has feelings then, after a time, he will initiate contact with you.
Of course, calling him once doesn't hurt, especially if he is shy, however, if you find that you are consistently the one trying to call/text/bbm/im/etc then you need to try a different strategy.
As you can see, winning the man of your dreams back is definitely a process.
There are a whole bunch of things you shouldn't do and very specific things you should.
The scariest part is that often times in a situation such as yours your "gut feeling" will be wrong.