Number One Secret on How to Avoid Fighting With Your Spouse
The number one secret to avoiding a fight with your spouse is, drum roll please, YOU have to want to avoid fighting with your spouse.
Do you want to fight or do you want to avoid fights.
Do you want to avoid fights or do you just want him/her not to argue with you? There is always a push/pull situation with people in a relationship and if you continue to push/pull you will continue to fight.
Think about this for a minute.
If you don't push, your spouse can't pull! Now, it doesn't happen overnight, but there is a way that you can avoid fighting in the home, in front of the children, etc.
You can see the scenario now, can't you? You know that if you say this, he'll say that, and on it will go.
The Key is not to say "this".
But how do you stop saying "this", especially when it just pops right out of your mouth? Here is how.
Before saying anything that even resembles saying "this", say mentally, to yourself, "I love _______, I trust _______, I respect _______, and I honor _______.
Fill the blanks in with the name of your spouse.
But, you say, I don't love, trust, respect, or honor him right now.
How can I say that? Well, let me ask you another question.
If you can't say those words to yourself right now, are you every going to say them? Probably not.
Or at least not very often.
So if you aren't saying those words, what are you saying? Egads, something not very nice sometimes, right? Well, here's something everyone needs to know.
What you are saying to yourself, you are bringing into your life.
If you continue to get upset at things your partner does, you will continually be saying bad things in your mind.
Therefore, what comes out of your mouth will be bad things.
Why don't you try this just for a day.
A whole day.
"I love _______, I trust _______, I respect _______, and I honor _______.
Fill the blanks in with the name of your spouse.
Every time you say it, visualize what it is that you like about your spouse.
Nurture the good feelings and see what happens when your spouse comes home from work or you come home from work to your spouse.
Do you see how you just removed the push from push/pull? This will take some forgiveness on your part to actually feel the good from this, but right along with forgiving your spouse, you need to forgive yourself.
The more you forgive and the more you visualize, you will see your life shifting for the better.
It has to start somewhere, why not let it start from you?
Do you want to fight or do you want to avoid fights.
Do you want to avoid fights or do you just want him/her not to argue with you? There is always a push/pull situation with people in a relationship and if you continue to push/pull you will continue to fight.
Think about this for a minute.
If you don't push, your spouse can't pull! Now, it doesn't happen overnight, but there is a way that you can avoid fighting in the home, in front of the children, etc.
You can see the scenario now, can't you? You know that if you say this, he'll say that, and on it will go.
The Key is not to say "this".
But how do you stop saying "this", especially when it just pops right out of your mouth? Here is how.
Before saying anything that even resembles saying "this", say mentally, to yourself, "I love _______, I trust _______, I respect _______, and I honor _______.
Fill the blanks in with the name of your spouse.
But, you say, I don't love, trust, respect, or honor him right now.
How can I say that? Well, let me ask you another question.
If you can't say those words to yourself right now, are you every going to say them? Probably not.
Or at least not very often.
So if you aren't saying those words, what are you saying? Egads, something not very nice sometimes, right? Well, here's something everyone needs to know.
What you are saying to yourself, you are bringing into your life.
If you continue to get upset at things your partner does, you will continually be saying bad things in your mind.
Therefore, what comes out of your mouth will be bad things.
Why don't you try this just for a day.
A whole day.
"I love _______, I trust _______, I respect _______, and I honor _______.
Fill the blanks in with the name of your spouse.
Every time you say it, visualize what it is that you like about your spouse.
Nurture the good feelings and see what happens when your spouse comes home from work or you come home from work to your spouse.
Do you see how you just removed the push from push/pull? This will take some forgiveness on your part to actually feel the good from this, but right along with forgiving your spouse, you need to forgive yourself.
The more you forgive and the more you visualize, you will see your life shifting for the better.
It has to start somewhere, why not let it start from you?
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