As much as I would like to say that all of my holiday experiences have been warm and fuzzy and worth every bit of stress, it would definitely be an untruth.
Most of us know what it is like to have one or two family members that we only have to deal with during the holiday's, and the holidays seem to come up way too soon.
If you are one of the lucky people who adore each and every family member that you see each holiday, I envy you.
Unfortunately not everyone is in that position.
In a perfect world, each of my holiday parties would be live replicas of Thomas Kincaid paintings.
Unfortunately, there is one member of my family who takes pleasure in ruining every holiday festivity from New Year to Christmas.
This person is my sister in law.
While I love my brother, his wife is another story.
I could go into my reasons,which are very well known throughout my family, but I will spare you my rantings.
Every holiday or get together that is held at my mothers home stresses me out.
There have been many gatherings that have ended in yelling and tears because of my sister in law attacking other family members.
I have declined many, many invitations to family parties over recent years, reason being that I just cannot stand the constant bickering.
My children are never aware of the problems during the holidays, and do not understand when we decline party invitations.
They usually get very upset with me for not going.
This year, I have decided to put a new plan to work for myself so that my children would no longer miss out on family functions.
I want to share my tips for a peaceful get together with you.
When you come in contact with that obnoxious someone at a gathering this holiday season, remember these 3 Easy Tips.
1.
Ignore it:Seems obvious enough, but you would be surprised at how many people don't take advantage of this simple tool.
Do not give anyone the power to get to you.
Ignoring them will take the wind right out of their sails.
2.
Remove Yourself: Do not put yourself in a situation where you are obligated to speak to the person.
Socialize with other guests.
Move around 3.
Leave:If all else fails, just leave.
Make sure you let your host know that you are leaving.
Avoid a scene.
Now is not the time to discuss the problem with your host, unless violence becomes involved.
One option would beto call the host the next day and explain the reason for your early departure.
Most family members that are hosting a get together will understand and do their best to make sure that you are not put in the same situation at future events.
I am actually looking forward to the holidays again, and you will too.
Good luck and Happy Holidays!!