Relationship problems that stem from jealousy issues can range from mild to severe.
Jealousy to a certain extent can seem cute and harmless, but it grows over time and in its full blown state it is nearly impossible to keep it under control.
If you know you have jealousy issues, the best way to avoid letting it affect your relationship is to deal with such emotion in its infancy, but needless to say you are here because you were too late to act on it.
If you've lost your girlfriend due to your jealousy issues, you'd be glad to know that there is a way of getting her back, but first you need a lesson in overcoming jealousy.
Jealousy issues can be divided largely into two groups, one that stem from an experience of abandonment and the second from rejection.
Generally speaking, jealousy usually triggers the feeling of insecurity and that's when things get way out of control.
Overcoming jealousy and insecurity issues will not happen overnight.
In fact, I have to warn you that this process is a long healing journey.
But once you overcome it, you will be rewarded generously with many good things to come in life.
If you fail to overcome it, subsequently you will lose many people and opportunities that will come your way.
According to the English dictionary, jealousy is resentment against a rival, mental uneasiness from fear or suspicion of unfaithfulness of a lover.
You would fall under the second definition, but I'm sure you weren't always that way.
More often than not, it is the unpleasant experience in life that brings out this ugly emotion out of us.
For example a cheating ex, an ex who dumped you by text, an ex who used you for monetary gain, and millions of other terrible things that a human being can inflict on another.
I should advice you that if your jealousy issue is affecting just about every aspect of your life, then you should definitely consider seeing a psychotherapist or a counselor.
To overcome jealousy, you should first learn to treat people as individuals and you have to stop grouping people into stereotypes that you are familiar with.
People see what they want to see in people and how you feel about someone does not define a person's character.
You know when they say things like, "I'm a good judge of character", well people like that are usually full of it.
You have to accept that what you see or may feel about someone is only your interpretation of that person.
There is more to a person than just what you can see with your eyes and what you may feel with your heart.
Not only will other people have different opinions from yours about the same person or persons, but you also have to acknowledge that you can always be wrong about someone.
Once you allow the past experiences dictate all that happens with your girlfriend, you would have handcuffed your current relationship to failure, as in your mind your current girlfriend is guilty of every bad things your ex girlfriend had done to you.
Leave the past in the past and leave the future in blank slate as it was meant to be.
Work on your self-esteem to rid of insecurity, this can be achieved by improving intellectual wellness, physical appearance, seeking spiritual guidance, or all of the above.
By working to improve yourself as a better person and by not allowing bad past experience dictate every decision you make, though it may take some time, jealousy and insecurity can be overcome.