Have You Suffered Infidelity In Marriage?
"How will I ever know if he's telling the truth again?" Eve asked.
"Those lies dripped like honey from his lips when he told me he was having a business dinner or meeting a new client.
God, I feel such a fool.
" It wasn't Eve's fault.
Infidelity in marriage catches the most astute of us on the wrong foot.
The natural inclination is to believe your spouse when he tells you where he's going or that he'll be late back for whatever reason.
To start believing your spouse again, you could go to ridiculous lengths, like forcing them to take a polygraph or employ a specialist, trained to tell whether someone's lying or not.
But now we're entering the land of make-believe.
What's this person supposed to do? Live with you? Are you going to take special training in the use of polygraph machines and wire your spouse up to the thing before he goes out? Of course not.
I'm afraid it all comes down to you, the cheated, and him, the cheater.
All right.
The affair's been discovered, and all the grisly details laid bare, or as much as you want laid bare.
How long have you been married? You may well have seen your children through college, in which case you've probably lived through your share of upsets, catastrophes and problems generally.
And you've weathered the storms.
Are you going to throw all that away over infidelity in marriage that may only have happened once? Then again, if you've been married for only a few months, this could put a whole different slant on what you decide.
What should the cheater do? Apologize unreservedly of course for causing his partner so much pain, but apologies don't amount to a hill of beans unless the cheating spouse is prepared to completely change his ways and commit totally to the marriage.
Why did the affair happen in the first place? Let's assume you've been married a long time.
Did one or both of you feel that you were slowly drifting apart? That perhaps it had developed into what you might call a surface relationship, where you never really talked about anything, sex was boring to non-existent, and basically your whole way of life, and therefore your marriage, had simply become routine.
Whether you've been married for only a few months or many years, you must sit down and decide whether or not you value your marriage enough to save it.
Infidelity in marriage doesn't mean the end of everything.
Indeed, there are numerous cases where couples have come back together and their unions are even stronger that they were before.
You can liken the affair to a very nasty boil.
Once it's uncovered, it may be considered lanced, and all the rotten parts of your marriage are laid bare, to be wiped away with a nice, clean poultice made up of mutual understanding, honesty, and total commitment from both of you.
"Those lies dripped like honey from his lips when he told me he was having a business dinner or meeting a new client.
God, I feel such a fool.
" It wasn't Eve's fault.
Infidelity in marriage catches the most astute of us on the wrong foot.
The natural inclination is to believe your spouse when he tells you where he's going or that he'll be late back for whatever reason.
To start believing your spouse again, you could go to ridiculous lengths, like forcing them to take a polygraph or employ a specialist, trained to tell whether someone's lying or not.
But now we're entering the land of make-believe.
What's this person supposed to do? Live with you? Are you going to take special training in the use of polygraph machines and wire your spouse up to the thing before he goes out? Of course not.
I'm afraid it all comes down to you, the cheated, and him, the cheater.
All right.
The affair's been discovered, and all the grisly details laid bare, or as much as you want laid bare.
How long have you been married? You may well have seen your children through college, in which case you've probably lived through your share of upsets, catastrophes and problems generally.
And you've weathered the storms.
Are you going to throw all that away over infidelity in marriage that may only have happened once? Then again, if you've been married for only a few months, this could put a whole different slant on what you decide.
What should the cheater do? Apologize unreservedly of course for causing his partner so much pain, but apologies don't amount to a hill of beans unless the cheating spouse is prepared to completely change his ways and commit totally to the marriage.
Why did the affair happen in the first place? Let's assume you've been married a long time.
Did one or both of you feel that you were slowly drifting apart? That perhaps it had developed into what you might call a surface relationship, where you never really talked about anything, sex was boring to non-existent, and basically your whole way of life, and therefore your marriage, had simply become routine.
Whether you've been married for only a few months or many years, you must sit down and decide whether or not you value your marriage enough to save it.
Infidelity in marriage doesn't mean the end of everything.
Indeed, there are numerous cases where couples have come back together and their unions are even stronger that they were before.
You can liken the affair to a very nasty boil.
Once it's uncovered, it may be considered lanced, and all the rotten parts of your marriage are laid bare, to be wiped away with a nice, clean poultice made up of mutual understanding, honesty, and total commitment from both of you.
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