In the olden days we seemed to have much more stability in our traditional marriages because the roles of the husband and wife were specifically understood.
The husband was to earn the money to support the family materially, while the wife was to take care of the home and children as they come along.
Today with the emancipation of women to pursue other careers of their choice, besides that of homemaker, traditional marriages have suffered.
That is because the roles of husband and wife have now overlapped and became intermingled with each other, so that traditional marriages have become much more complex, and because of the reluctance of many men to accept their new roles in marriages..
Now I'm all for this emancipation of women, because women too are educated, other than in being a housewife or mother, and they too should be able to pursue the dream of their career choice as well, if it's not that of a homemaker, so I feel the dynamics and understanding of traditional marriages have to change.
And this I feel is what we're struggling with today, but I also feel that in the future, if we haven't already done so, we will be able to fine ways to share our responsibilities in a fairer and a much more equitable way so that we will continue to have successful, although more complex, traditional marriages.
Of course, making divorce easier and easier today doesn't help either.
In fact, today divorce has become much easier to attain because women now have become much more financially independent, so that they can live independently from a husband.
We also want to give couples a fair option to get out of a marriage if they feel they really shouldn't be married.
The problem here is that in many cases we don't give the couple enough time to see if the marriage could really work out or not, especially if children are involved.
Of course before traditional marriages do take place, the bride and groom have to understand the differences between infatuation and true love.
Of course to begin a relationship between a man and a woman you need infatuation, whereby both parties are attracted to each other in some way, but eventually you will find that this infatuation will tend to fade away if you just depend upon that.
So before matrimony really takes place, true love between the two parties has to start to develop whereby both parties can start to accept what imperfections they might encounter in their mate.
And this sometimes can be very difficult to do.
But then you'll start to get to know each other as a true Spiritual human being with all the imperfections and perfections being exposed, and you as a couple will start to become much more compatible with each other.
And as a result your children will greatly benefit from all of this because they will then see a stability in their own lives, that you find lacking in so many of the other families in the world today, and then these children can focus more fervently on the true purpose, as they or God sees it, in their own lives.