You know that old story you keep repeating, in your head as well as to other people? The same old tune that's as worn out as last year's slippers? And, about as comfortable, eh? What you've been repeating is likely brimming with past failures and present fears and limitations. It's not serving you.

Dump that old worn out tune and discover a New €Story€ about your life and start repeating that, instead.

You could say: €How could I say I'm fine when I'm not?€ Good question. The answer is in your focus.

Find something to be thankful for, there is ALWAYS something to appreciate. For example, the sunshine, that you can see, that you have a roof over your head, fresh water to drink. We tend to take lots of things for granted, but there are huge numbers of people on this planet without clean water to drink!

So, latch onto those things you can appreciate right this moment. Take baby steps towards a greater appreciation of more in your life. Then you can start moving towards your desired future more easily.

If you focus on your fears or the bits of your past that upset you, that's what your life will be loaded with. Conversely, give attention to what you would like in life, on what you appreciate in everyday life, and you gain more of that! It's the crux of the Law of Attraction.

So, how do you do create a new story? It has several aspects to it, all have value. Let's take a look.

*One is what you say when someone asks you how you're doing. Do you trot out a litany of complaints or pretend all is well and lie to be polite or take some middle ground?

*Another is the speech you bring out for new people in your life, that one minute elevator story of woe and lack you may think of as your personal history. You all know what I'm talking about. What does yours sound like?

*A third is your "self talk." The things you are saying to yourself, inside, all day, every day. What are you repeating thousands of times each day to yourself inside your head??

It's so tempting to complain, and so addictive, and when you get you get going, it can be almost impossible to stop the downward spiral. So, don't get started, or when you find yourself getting started, catch yourself as soon as you can.

Sure those bad, negative, sad things did happen, but, why dwell there? Why focus on that? As Dr. Phil is known to ask, €How's that workin' for ya'?€

If it's making you feel more empowered and happier in your life, read no further.

If not, spend some time over the next week noticing each area indicated above and the way you handle them. Then, start creating a new script focused more on the positive aspects of your life.

Start with just one particular area to change, and watch yourself, in this one area only!

Baby steps. Just relax! Don't get overwhelmed, it's too easy to quit then. You could possibly even start off with an uncomplicated area, to give you faster results.

"Spin" your current story to a more positive version! Discover the gratitude lurking behind the complaints. Appreciate the tough times for how strong they've made you. Appreciate the valuable lessons you've learned from them. Take it slow.

Each time you catch yourself reverting back to the original story, and you probably will, many of us do for a time, simply reaffirm the new €story' and move on. It may take some time to make it sound real to your own ears. But change always feels a little awkward as it's happening. There's always an adjustment period for any change, even ones we look forward to.

Allow yourself the time to really feel good about this new €story' that focuses on what you appreciate now, as well as your dreams, your desires, on what you desire to have for your life.

Change won't happen overnight. Persist. I promise you, you'll feel better for it.

© Kim O'Hara