Luring in a Reluctant Wedding Planner
So, your fiancé proposed to you during a romantic dinner and you have picked a wedding date.
You now have to go through the grueling process of planning all the intricate details of the wedding.
However as the big day approaches you notice your fiancé's zeal for the event seems to have cooled off and he has developed a hands-off approach to decision making.
Don't panic, all you need to do is to learn the art of roping in a reluctant wedding planner.
You can start by letting him know how crucial his input is to the wedding.
Most men understand that the wedding is their soon-to-be wife's day, however make him understand that it's his day too; involve him.
Though he may not tell the difference between wedding dresses or may at times seem colorblind when it comes to choosing the wedding theme, you can let him do the 'manly stuff'.
Depute areas of interest to him such as choosing the reception DJ or setting up the carriage, either a limo or other transport arrangements.
If assigning tasks such as selecting wedding colors or floral arrangements to him is a definite no-no, a better approach may be to ask him to assist you in choosing vendors and styles.
This way you ensure that you can both have a say and both be involved as a part of the process.
When you do ask him for assistance, make a point of narrowing down the options first.
By doing this, he is less likely to feel overwhelmed by the decision making process.
When you ask him for his view, do not take it lightly and do not second guess his every step.
Showing lack of confidence in him is probably one of the fastest way you can dispel your 'to-be' from wedding planning.
It would really help your fiancé if you planned his tasks ahead and put them down on paper much like a shopping list.
Men are generally less adept at multitasking than women and this would definitely help him to get organized and ensure that he does not forget anything.
He will also derive a great sense of achievement once he gets to the bottom of the list.
If you find that you fiancé is uncomfortable doing a task, then you could consider taking on the task yourself.
If he is a good financier, let him handle the budget and payments.
Remember that you have often dreamt about your wedding your entire life - take a moment and consider that you may go over the budget in a bid to make the day perfect.
Also note that he is probably also a newbie when it comes to wedding planning and can develop cold feet as he realizes the inevitability of the approaching wedding date.
Spend some time with him without the wedding pressures disrupting the peace.
It will help in reminding him why he fell in love with you in the first place and also will rekindle the love so greatly felt.
Follow these easy steps and you are a master at luring in a reluctant wedding planner.
Onwards! Onwards! Try them practically and see for yourself!
You now have to go through the grueling process of planning all the intricate details of the wedding.
However as the big day approaches you notice your fiancé's zeal for the event seems to have cooled off and he has developed a hands-off approach to decision making.
Don't panic, all you need to do is to learn the art of roping in a reluctant wedding planner.
You can start by letting him know how crucial his input is to the wedding.
Most men understand that the wedding is their soon-to-be wife's day, however make him understand that it's his day too; involve him.
Though he may not tell the difference between wedding dresses or may at times seem colorblind when it comes to choosing the wedding theme, you can let him do the 'manly stuff'.
Depute areas of interest to him such as choosing the reception DJ or setting up the carriage, either a limo or other transport arrangements.
If assigning tasks such as selecting wedding colors or floral arrangements to him is a definite no-no, a better approach may be to ask him to assist you in choosing vendors and styles.
This way you ensure that you can both have a say and both be involved as a part of the process.
When you do ask him for assistance, make a point of narrowing down the options first.
By doing this, he is less likely to feel overwhelmed by the decision making process.
When you ask him for his view, do not take it lightly and do not second guess his every step.
Showing lack of confidence in him is probably one of the fastest way you can dispel your 'to-be' from wedding planning.
It would really help your fiancé if you planned his tasks ahead and put them down on paper much like a shopping list.
Men are generally less adept at multitasking than women and this would definitely help him to get organized and ensure that he does not forget anything.
He will also derive a great sense of achievement once he gets to the bottom of the list.
If you find that you fiancé is uncomfortable doing a task, then you could consider taking on the task yourself.
If he is a good financier, let him handle the budget and payments.
Remember that you have often dreamt about your wedding your entire life - take a moment and consider that you may go over the budget in a bid to make the day perfect.
Also note that he is probably also a newbie when it comes to wedding planning and can develop cold feet as he realizes the inevitability of the approaching wedding date.
Spend some time with him without the wedding pressures disrupting the peace.
It will help in reminding him why he fell in love with you in the first place and also will rekindle the love so greatly felt.
Follow these easy steps and you are a master at luring in a reluctant wedding planner.
Onwards! Onwards! Try them practically and see for yourself!
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