You have met and fallen in love with the love of your life.
The relationship proceeds well, and you share your joyful wedding with all your friends and family.
And after a loving start, you begin to settle into the routines of your married life.
For a while, everything seems wonderful, all things are possible, and you can not get enough of each other.
You both seem complete.
Does this sound like you and your partner? I bet it does, the same as so many couples around the world.
Then time passes and reality creeps in! The bloom fades.
Any number of complaints begin to surface.
Perhaps you don't feel your partner listens to you anymore, or you get accused of nagging all the time.
You may be the one looking after the children most of the time, while your partner buries themselves in work, or a separate social life.
They may say you have it easier, and resent you because you do not have to work as many hours outside the home, or because you have more time with the children every day.
You feel they don't value what you do around the home enough; maybe they even demand should do more.
You come to feel devalued, and lonely.
Then let's not forget about money pressures.
Marriage and money, well, let's just say that mix causes major problems.
Maybe there is only one salary, or unequal salaries, and they don't meet the many expenses in keeping up a home and family.
Money stress seems to be one of the most painful issues for troubled couples to discuss, because it's already so charged.
Does this sound painfully familiar? These are just some of the many agonizing problems couples come up against in married life.
It can easily get to the point where you can no longer talk to each other, only shout and get angry, or maybe worse, withdraw into silence.
Your marriage is in crisis...
in danger of dissolving.
You want to get your marriage back on track, but you don't know where to start.
Friends and family are okay in a pinch, but it's hard for them as they might feel expected to take sides.
They want to love both of you.
If you cannot sit down together and really talk, then the time has come to get outside help.
"Does outside help for a troubled marriage really work?" I can hear you asking.
Well, if your marriage isn't working as it is, then it can only likely improve things.
A outside resource is impartial.
This is important for both of you, as you won't be able to say that only one side is being favored.
Re-establishing communication is key.
Creating the opportunity for you both to say what you really feel without being judged gives you both the chance to really listen.
And being heard leads to healing Outside help can assist you to resist the urge to shout each other down.
If you really want to stay together and fall in love again, then you both will do anything it takes to make that happen.
Surely it's worth it! The person you fell in love with and made vows to is still there.
No one has ever said married life would be easy, but it is worth working at.
You are used to working hard excelling at your job.
You can also think of your marriage as a job that you love, and for which the pay is life long.
Tack action and begin the work of getting your marriage back on track.