It hurts when your partner breaks up with you.
You are torn with standing your ground because of your pride, or begging on your knees with the intense feeling of winning him or her over.
But when it finally resulted to a break up, there are some ways of turning the tables in your favor.
Here are some tips.
Make Amends.
Realizing your mistakes and making amends for it is one sure way of winning your ex back.
Matured individuals know how to accept their faults and are willing to change for the better.
Standing your ground and asserting that it's your partner's fault all the while will only make him or her more distant from you.
Once your ex concedes and decides to give you the change to explain; make it perfect! Have it over dinner or somewhere special to take him or her by surprise.
Mean every word you say and turn it all into actions given the opportunity.
Gifts.
When all words fail, giving something special to your ex can warm his or heart.
It may not be expensive, but do prepare for it to make it exceptional.
The old roses and chocolates for the ex girlfriends never break the purpose.
They still give a special pang in the heart when one receives them.
Look into your old stuff.
It can be your pictures together placed in an album with some notes to say you are sorry, an advanced birthday or thanksgiving presents just to say that maybe we do not have time to share this anymore so I am giving it to you now, or an item you know your ex love to have.
Showing that you still care through these gifts can get your ex back.
Letter.
When you are in the height of your anger or exasperation during arguments there are words that do not easily get by.
Most of the time you are consumed with rage that you say things you do not mean; or that you can hardly talk at all.
Writing your feelings down will give you the time to digest certain situations and recall how you reacted to them.
Writing letters also allow your inner thoughts to surface thus giving you the chance to express your deepest sentiments.
Also it will show that you have exerted an effort in thinking things through and coming up with a way of expressing them.
Song.
"So I have to say I love you in a song.
" This is a famous line in the song of Jim Croce with the same title.
It is true that music softens the mood.
Give a cd or a recording to your ex that has the song you think explains everything for you.
I bet that there are certain songs that match their lyrics with what is going on between the two of you.
Once again, if your ex feels that you exert an effort of making things OK between the two of you, it can easily win him or her over.
And there is no better way than singing yourself through it.
Making an effort for something to work pays off.
Like they say, no pain no gain.
Putting your feelings in action will strengthen your purpose.
In the case of winning your ex back, think of all possible means to bring back the loving feeling.