There is nothing wrong with trying to get your ex back, it's just that some ways are better than others.
One thing is for certain when trying to get your ex back forget the Hollywood magical movies where everyone lives a long happy life with their partner.
Try to think in terms of a lot of effort and hard work if you truly want to salvage your relationship.
They say honesty is a virtue and when in a relationship honesty is a number one priority.
A relationship built on lies and mistrust is like a building built on a weak foundation.
The building will last for a while but then it will begin to break down and crumble.
Relationships are no different - they also need a strong sturdy foundation in order to survive.
If you think you will get back together and it will be different this time around you may be best to rethink that idea.
Why is it going to be different this time around? You need to address this honestly.
You need to be honest about who you are and why you want to get your ex back.
You also need to be honest about your ex.
You can change things about yourself but you cannot change things about your ex.
You have to accept your ex for who they are and you need to be honest about whether or not you can do that.
When you are trying to fix the relationship between you and your ex it would be a good idea to approach your ex in a calm manner.
If you come on too strong or overly enthusiastic your ex could very well feel overwhelmed and could become more distant.
Although you may feel you are not coming on too strong you need to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
You also need to understand that your ex may not feel the same about fixing the relationship like you do.
They may need more space and time before they are ready if they are ready at all.
So now that you know what you should avoid doing in order to get your ex back, what are some of the things that you can do? In order to start and fix the relationship and win your ex back you need to take certain steps to set things right and keep it that way.
Take a good hard look at some of the aspects of the relationship that you would like to see improved.
Keep in mind if change is involved the only one you have control over to change is yourself.
Once you identify the problems in the relationship you can start and try to make some changes that will help to fix the relationship.
You may need to make several changes in order to resolve just one issue but no one said fixing a relationship was going to be quick and easy.
As your relationship improves you need to be careful not to fall back in to the old routine.
When you see a potential problem coming between the two of you instead of just letting it heal over time by ignoring it like you use to, this time sit down and have a heart to heart with your partner.
It is much better to resolve these little issues before they grow into a major obstacle.
By being attentive and honest you can have a better relationship with your partner.
Remember also relationships do take hard work and need constant attention, but a good relationship between two people is something very special and well worth the time and effort.