I Want My Ex Back, But I"m Not Sure I"m Ready to Get Him Back
Why is it so hard to sometimes admit to ourselves that we want our ex back? It's clear if we're thinking about him all the time.
It's more than clear if we wake up at night or in the morning thinking about him.
We can't keep him out of our conversations.
Our friends, bored with the topic, are finally telling us to move on.
The main reason: if we articulated to ourselves we want him back, we would be forced to take action.
That would require facing some unpleasant truths about the relationship and our own fears and guilt.
One of the reasons: we are afraid we are wrong.
We are not sure what went wrong.
If we were dumped, we think logically enough he no longer loves us.
We simply don't want to risk being hurt again.
And we don't want to go revisit all the pain we have suffered during the breakup.
If we dumped him we may feel guilty.
We logically enough feel we are to blame for all the painful feelings caused by the relationship breaking up.
Since we caused the break up, how dare we try to get him back? The pain associated with the relationship breaking up coalesces into guilt.
We deserve it.
Though you still love him, you may not have arrived at the point where you can assert clearly you want to reconcile.
It's okay to think deeply about important life questions.
Getting your ex back is a process beginning with asking if its good for both of you to be together again.
This is the real question.
We all want the very best for our life.
Romantic relationships are among the most important.
No matter how well romantic relationships begin, they can go wrong in so many ways.
After all the harsh words said, and all the hurtful actions, how do you manage this? How do I communicate with him? When do I do it? What about reconnecting sexually? Dating another guy when I still want to get back with my ex? Not talking to him at all? All these are issues require clarity.
You have to be clear about the best ways to get your relationship back together again.
Make a mistake at any stage and you destroy completely your chances to get your ex back.
It's more than clear if we wake up at night or in the morning thinking about him.
We can't keep him out of our conversations.
Our friends, bored with the topic, are finally telling us to move on.
The main reason: if we articulated to ourselves we want him back, we would be forced to take action.
That would require facing some unpleasant truths about the relationship and our own fears and guilt.
One of the reasons: we are afraid we are wrong.
We are not sure what went wrong.
If we were dumped, we think logically enough he no longer loves us.
We simply don't want to risk being hurt again.
And we don't want to go revisit all the pain we have suffered during the breakup.
If we dumped him we may feel guilty.
We logically enough feel we are to blame for all the painful feelings caused by the relationship breaking up.
Since we caused the break up, how dare we try to get him back? The pain associated with the relationship breaking up coalesces into guilt.
We deserve it.
Though you still love him, you may not have arrived at the point where you can assert clearly you want to reconcile.
It's okay to think deeply about important life questions.
Getting your ex back is a process beginning with asking if its good for both of you to be together again.
This is the real question.
We all want the very best for our life.
Romantic relationships are among the most important.
No matter how well romantic relationships begin, they can go wrong in so many ways.
After all the harsh words said, and all the hurtful actions, how do you manage this? How do I communicate with him? When do I do it? What about reconnecting sexually? Dating another guy when I still want to get back with my ex? Not talking to him at all? All these are issues require clarity.
You have to be clear about the best ways to get your relationship back together again.
Make a mistake at any stage and you destroy completely your chances to get your ex back.
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