Why did she leave me? What went wrong? All these questions and more are going through your head.
Follow these steps and you can stop asking questions and turn back time to get your relationship back on track.
I've been in the exact same position and the things that I've learned will stop you making the fatal mistakes that signal an end to your relationship and goodbye to your ex.
I'll also give you the one key to making up that works in over 90 percent of cases.
So, what did you do? You don't need to replay everything in your head, but a break up leaves clues.
These leave a "freeze frame" in your mind and it is important to identify them.
These key moments are almost always concerned with three areas.
Firstly, family.
A smarter man than me once said that you don't choose your family.
He was right.
Half of all relationship break ups are not because of you or your ex, but because of the family of one or the other (or both!).
Recognising that family must be accepted on both sides and being prepared to make concessions is vital.
Secondly, common interests.
How often have you heard "we don't do anything together any more?".
Remember why a relationship starts in the first place.
The desire to share is at the heart of every relationship and if forgetting this has signaled the end for you, you must look to retrace your steps and find that common ground again.
Thirdly, routine.
doing the same thing every day, even with someone we love, will kill any relationship.
Be spontaneous, do something different, and kick start your couple.