To arouse a woman, you need to work on 2 aspects: physical arousal and emotional connection.
Some men mistakenly focus solely on physical arousal.
However, you have to work on both the physical and emotional aspects to turn her on if you are in a relationship.
Here are 5 tips to arouse your partner: (1) Create the mood If you want her to be less shy in bed, you have to give her a little push by setting the mood.
Look at lovemaking as if it is a theatrical piece which you need the right lighting, right mood, right props and costumes.
You can foster the romantic mood with sensual music, candles, soft fabrics, sexy toys or buy her sexy lingerie.
You can stretch your imaginations and creativity by setting the mood not just in the bedroom, it can also be in the living room, kitchen or just about anywhere you can think of.
You can also add some romance to your day by leaving a note at somewhere she can only see it.
Or, you can pour a glass of wine, or sparkling water and give her some chocolate/ice-cream when you see her after work.
(2) Make her feel appreciated If she is stressed and overburdened she will not be in the mood to get turned on.
You can volunteer to take over some jobs so that she will not get too bogged down.
To make her feel appreciated, you can tell her how much you love her, her character, her cheerfulness.
Give her pleasant surprises by occasionally getting her a small gift to show how much you appreciate her.
Give her sincere and specific compliments such as telling her how sexy she is, when her way of dressing turns you on, or telling her how delicious the food she prepares when you enjoy her cooking of particular dishes.
(3) Seductive touching Most women like to be warmed up a bit before being touched in an intimate way.
This is because kissing, massaging, stroking, caressing and all other forms of physical contacts can help in the secretion of Oxytocin, the bonding chemical.
Touching and kissing her tenderly.
Touch her hands, arms, face, neck and back before going to the more erotic areas.
Cuddling, or any comforting non-sexual touch like the massaging of shoulders, neck, foot or back, hand-holding can make her feel safe, comfortable and warm.
When you restrict your partner's senses, it can create some sexual tension.
Try having your partner put on a sleep mask and listen to music through the earphones while relaxing quietly on the bed.
Next you stroke her body lightly with a feather or silk scarf.
This can heighten the sense of touch when other senses are taken away.
(4) Indulging in fantasies Fantasy can be loads of fun and leads to mental arousal as well.
To turn your fantasy juices on, you can read and watch erotic stories.
Erotica can help you to discover your deepest, darkest and most sensual fantasies.
You can also do some dirty talking by sharing your sexual fantasies with her and talk about things that excite your partner.
(5) Be attentive Do pay close attention to your partner's signals in daily life.
Observe the specific type of actions, activities or events that can turn her on and focus your effort on nurturing or facilitating their happenings from time to time.
When in bed, pay attention on where and how she likes to be touched.
To better understand her preferences, you can ask her questions like, "Do you like that?" or "Should I keep doing that?" Tailor your lovemaking techniques to her sexual preferences instead of blindly following the advice from sex guide books.
You can learn more about those sex tips but be selective and choose those that work on your partner.